The ABC's of Back to School

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September marks the beginning of back to school for children and parents. Back to school time can be fun, exciting, and full of new possibilities. But it can also be chaotic, overwhelming, and disorganized. Like any transition, children can react to these changes in both positive and negative ways.

 In positive ways, it can be exciting to watch your child adapt to new classes and friends while learning new things and earning new responsibilities. However, it is also common for children to present with new or re-occurring behaviors that are disruptive, aggressive, or maladaptive to maintaining a positive learning environment and peaceful home.

Over time, as everyone adapts to a new schedule and routine, you should see a decrease in these disruptive behaviors and an increase in positive behaviors. Use these tips to make this back to school time transition as smooth as possible this year:

Tips For Helping Your Child Adjust to School


A. Academics and Activities. The start of a new school year can bring on a flurry of activities that while fun, can be overwhelming to children. A balance between academics and activities is critical to maintaining a content household. Just like adults can feel overwhelmed when schedules are overloaded, children can also feel spread thin and exhausted if they are involved in too many activities on top of their new school responsibilities.

If your child is not adjusting well, try cutting back on activities, allowing your child’s time and energy resources to focus on just a couple of things at a time. This balance between academics and activities, including free time to play and relax, can make all the difference between a chaotic and calm family and home.

B. Bedtime Routine. During summer, routines and consistent bed times are often forgotten in favor of fun activities and vacations which can end in late nights. Returning to a consistent bed time can improve your child’s ability to tolerate transitions. Feeling rested in the morning helps your child start their school day strong and capable of processing new information and managing a new environment.

A consistent routine at bedtime can look many ways but might include cleaning up their room, bath time, brushing teeth, reading time, and lights out. Keeping the same order helps your child know what to expect next. Set a reasonable bed time based on your child’s age that helps them to feel rested and ready for school. Finding the right bed time might be an experimental process as you adjust the time so that it is late enough that they are tired when it is bedtime but early enough that they get plenty of rest before their wake up time for school.

C. Consistent Check-Ins. Consistently checking in with your child empowers them in feeling supported and keeps you aware of events, celebrations, and potential challenges. Weekly family meetings can provide a way to check in with each family member and maintain awareness about what he or she is feeling about school, friendships, and family. If your child is feeling worried or discontent about something in his life, he might struggle with a good time to bring it up with the family.

Consistent check ins allow a space and time to do just that, making it safe for your child to bring up his worries and seek support from the entire family. Family check-ins are also a great time to celebrate all of the good things that have happened throughout the week!

Back to school time can be both exciting and stressful for parents, children, and families. Enjoy this new time and take time out of the busyness to reward positive behaviors and celebrate new achievements. This is a normal time to see new and re-occurring disruptive behaviors occur with your children as they adjust to new people, places, and routines. However, if after a few weeks in to the new school year your household is still chaotic, reach out to the resources available to you for support. A school counselor is a great place to start for assessment and referrals. If you feel that additional support would be helpful, a family therapist in your area can help provide on-going support and tools for a happier and healthier child, family, and home.

Dont' Follow This Bad Marriage Advice

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When you first got married, you were given all sorts of marriage advice. Some of it came on cards with your wedding presents. Some of it came from friends at your wedding party. And a lot of it came from your parents or other friends who are married.

Regardless of where the advice came from, you were willing to accept whatever advice you could get. After all, if anything could keep you and your fiance' from becoming just another divorce statistic, you were willing to give it a try.

Unfortunately, not all the marriage advice you got was good. There are a lot of marriage tips floating around that have no basis whatsoever. In fact, some of the advice you got might have even been harmful. So to help you sort out which ones are no good, here is some of the most common marriage tips that you shouldn't follow.

Bad Marriage Advice You Shouldn't Follow


1) Never go to bed angry. This one is just silly. This one seems to expect you to get over problems within a day - just like you see on TV. The truth is, couples have problems - real problems. And not all of them get solved in 24 hours. Sometimes it takes weeks, months or even years to solve the problem. And every time the problem comes up you can't expect each other to be happy.

Solution: Repair quickly. Instead of never going to bed angry, the better advice is to repair problems quickly. You can't solve the problems (that might take years) but you can make amends in the relationship so there aren't any bitter feelings while you're trying to work the problem out.

2) Love is all you need. Umm, not quite. Sure, you might love each other but if your spouse is unwilling/unable to hold a steady job or can't quite kick that alcohol addiction, you may be better off single. Even if you love each other, one partner really can drag the other one down. And that doesn't do either of you any good.

Solution: Love each other but still be practical. Love is necessary in a relationship but real love comes when both partners are whole and capable of loving back. You might love your spouse to death but if your spouse isn't whole enough to show love back then you have some decisions to make.

3) Expect your sex life to drop off a cliff. Why? You love each other so why not have sex as often as you can? Plus, sex is the only thing that you share with your spouse that you can't share with anyone else. It's what sets you apart as a couple. If you're not having sex you may as well be roommates.

Solution: Yes, sex has its ups and downs when you're married but you should always expect to be having sex. And it should always be really good (at least as often as possible). If you're not having good sex read some books, see a counselor or whatever it takes to get your sex life back on track.

4) Focus on making your spouse happy and you'll be happy, too. Don't think so. There's no magic button that makes you happy just because your spouse is. And if your spouse isn't happy that doesn't mean it's your responsibility to fix it. Sometimes they have a good reason not to be happy (like if their friend just died).

Solution: Yes, a marriage is a partnership so you can't just focus on yourself. But you can't just focus on your partner, either. Being a self-sacrificer for the sake of the marriage usually means you're being a doormat. A happy marriage happens when BOTH partners are getting their needs met. There's a little give and take in every relationship but don't give up too much or you'll lose yourself in the marriage.

You got lots of marriage advice when you got married. You probably still do. And it's probably all well-intended. But just because it's intended well doesn't mean it's good advice. As a general rule, if any marriage advice doesn't feel good to you there's no reason to follow it. There's plenty of other advice out there that might work for you.



Do You Objectify Your Husband?

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As a woman, you know what it's like to be objectified. Ever since you hit puberty, you've had guys you don't even know staring at your chest or making cat-calls about your body parts. You don't walk away feeling any better about yourself because of it, either. Usually, you feel like your self-esteem has taken a hit and you even feel threatened/worried about what this guy is going to do next. So when you think about whether you objectify your husband, you probably think you don't. After all, you don't make catcalls at him or stare at the bulge in his pants. 

But just because you don't objectify him for his physical traits, doesn't mean you don't objectify him at all. In fact, women do objectify men. They just don't do it through their physical traits. 

How Women Objectify Men


Instead of objectifying men by their physical traits, women usually objectify men by their character. Women expect men to be brave, dashing, debonair, charming, etc. And you were taught this for a long time. Ever since you were a little girl, you hoped to marry a Prince Charming. You wanted to marry someone brave, strong, handsome, and would be willing to go to great lengths for you if you needed it. 

So as you grew older and began dating, you looked for guys who were charming, kind, and treated you like a princess. Of course you did. What girl doesn't want someone like that? Sure, as you got older you realized that Prince Charming is a fairy tale, but if you can find a guy like Prince Charming who will treat you like a princess, why not?!  

Unfortunately, this Prince Charming fallacy is a great example of how women objectify their husbands. And it is so prevalent that all women do it to some extent or another. But the truth is, not all men are charming, dashing, or debonair. Some men would rather read books, play video games or work on cars. That doesn't mean they're defective, it just means they're a unique person who deserve to be loved as such.

Sure, not all women expect their husbands to be Prince Charming. But the same objectification still happens in a lot of ways. Here are just a few:

Signs You're Objectifying Your Husband 


1) He doesn't do it right. Do you get angry at your husband because he leaves the toilet seat up, or doesn't load the dishwasher right? This doesn't mean that he's defective, it means he's a unique person and does things differently. There's nothing inherently wrong with leaving the toilet seat up or putting the bowls on the bottom rack of the dishwasher. It's objectifying to expect your husband to do things the same as you do them and then holding him accountable as though he should magically know better.  

2) He's not making me happy in our marriage.  Relying on your husband to somehow make your marriage happy is objectifying. It's not his job to make you happy in your marriage. Yes, he's half of the equation but he's only half. And as a capable adult, you're ultimately responsible for your own happiness. 

The truth is, marriage takes work. Stop expecting your husband to make you happy and do the things you need to do that will make you happy. 

3) I shouldn't have to ask, he should just know. Everybody knows communication is key in marriage. But a lot of women still complain because their husband doesn't get them the right gift or doesn't plan the perfect date that they'd like. Instead of telling their husband what they'd like to do, they just expect him to magically know - just like Prince Charming magically knew how to save Snow White. 

The truth is, communication is a two way street. If you want something specific from your husband, just ask. Sure, it might not be as romantic as him just magically knowing exactly what you want, but that's a fairy tale idea anyway - and it's objectifying to compare him to a fairy tale notion. Talk openly with your husband. You'll see that you feel a lot closer when you can be open with him and see that he listens to what you want. 

4) He's not the kind of father you thought he would be. Parenting is hard. And just because they're his own kids doesn't mean he's going to be great at it. Expecting him to be a Superdad and getting angry at him when he isn't is also objectifying. 

Objectification Hurts Your Marriage


Objectifying your husband by expecting him to be someone he's not feels about as good to him as it does when somebody makes a catcall to you. And because it makes him feel this way, it's ultimately hurting your marriage. It sends the message that you don't love him for who he really and that you'll only love him if he meets your expectations. So instead of objectifying your husband, get to know your husband for who he really is. Love him for the strengths he has and for his weaknesses. You'll be surprised what a difference it'll make in your marriage. 



3 Well Meaning Things That Hurt Your Marriage

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Maybe I'm too much of an optimist, but I believe that everybody has good intentions - most of the time. In fact, theories of human behavior suggest that humans only behave in ways that are advantageous to them. And in a society that means we behave in ways that are usually good for society, too.

But spouses who come to see me for marriage counseling usually don't see their partner's behaviors this way. They've been arguing with their spouse about the same thing for so long, that they believe their spouse has to be doing what they're doing deliberately and maliciously.

It's no wonder then, when spouses harbor bitter feelings towards each other. If you believe your spouse, who is supposed to love, honor and cherish you, is doing things deliberately to hurt you it makes you feel less loved. It makes you feel unimportant and you lose trust in your partner, too. You also worry that you won't be emotionally safe.

So even though behavior may be well meaning, that doesn't mean that it's okay. Well meaning behavior can still hurt. And it can still cause problems in your marriage no matter how well intended it is. And as a marriage counselor, I often see 3 well intended behaviors that hurt marriages. In fact, these three things are so common that most people don't realize they're doing them. Checkout these three well-meaning behaviors that are still hurting your marriage:

3 Unintentional Ways You're Hurting Your Marriage




1)  Putting Children First. Children are the best thing in the world. It makes sense, then, that when children come along you focus a lot of your time and attention into them. Plus, when they're really little they can't really take care of themselves so you have to give them a lot of your attention just to make sure they're being taken care of.

But even though your children are so important, your spouse is equally important, too. And because your spouse is an adult, you feel they should take care of themselves while you spend the short amount of time you have with your children. But even though this is well meaning it still hurts your marriage. And there's no reason you should have to choose between your children and your marriage. In fact, putting your marriage first gives your children a great example of what a good relationship looks like. This way you'll be setting them up for a great relationship of their own.

2) Hurtful Teasing. Teasing is fun. In fact, it can even be good in your relationship because it's a form of playfulness and flirting. But hurtful teasing, no matter how well-intended, is never good in your relationship.

It's not good because your spouse doesn't know what message to take away from it. Do they believe the playful/flirting part or the hurtful part? Because they don't know which message to take away, they take a little bit of both. And when your spouse takes away a hurtful message from you (even a little bit) they walk away feeling less loved and feel less trust towards you.

So when you tease, make sure your message is unequivocally fun and playful. Keep the hurtful messages out of it.

3) Placating. Nobody likes to fight. It's uncomfortable and it causes hurt feelings. It makes sense, then, that you'd rather avoid a fight if you can. But sometimes in order to avoid a fight, you tell your spouse what you think they want to hear just to get over the discomfort of the current fight you're in. The problem with this is that your mind is more on getting past the fight instead of coming up with a long-term resolution. And, wouldn't you know it, the fight comes up again in the future. Then you're having the exact same fight and the exact same hurt feelings you could have fixed long ago if you would have just hung in there until you found a resolution.

Instead of placating, hang in there. Stand your ground and come up with a solution that fits both your needs.You may have to put up with the temporary discomfort of a fight, but you'll be setting yourself up for long-term success. And you'll be ensuring you don't have to face the same discomfort in the future.



The Power of Repair


Nobody's perfect. And no matter how well intended we might be, we still end up hurting each other's feelings. When this happens a simple apology can go a long ways. Nothing is more healing and more repairing than telling your spouse you're sorry for the hurt you've caused. And that's an intentional way you can make your relationship better. 

Three Ways to Raise a Child with High Self Esteem

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All parents I see are trying to do their best and seeking support to do the important and difficult work of raising children. Parenthood is challenging and every day you are faced with the task of making the best possible choices towards raising happy, healthy children. One of the most common questions I am asked as a therapist is how to ensure your child develops and maintains a healthy self-esteem. And while each child is different and might respond to different ideas in different ways, there are ways to ensure you’re doing your best towards the best possible outcome. Here are three things you can do today to ensure you’re child develops a high, healthy, self-esteem.

Three Things to Help Your Child Develop a High Self-Esteem


Praise Effort. It is exciting when your child is good at something. Excelling in a sport, music, or academics is an achievement to be proud of. Celebrating and praising your child for their innate abilities and skills that they work hard for is important. However, focusing too much on a particular skill or area can increase stress and disappointment if a failure occurs in that area. For example, you daughter can be a baseball star but strike out at her weekend game and still walk away with high self-esteem! Focusing on effort and doing your best possible can help a child to place value on effort rather than skill. This one thing can help your child to see the constant value in himself during both times of success and failure.

Step Back. Let your child try something on his own without your help. An important learning experience for your child can be experiencing both the challenge and the pride of accomplishing a task by herself. Have you ever stood by nervously as your toddler climbed to the top of the steps for the first time? Or waited by patiently as your preschooler tied his shoes for the first time? The look of sheer pride after your child accomplishes these things for the first time can be rewarding in itself for a parent. Feeling the frustration, anxiety, and even sometimes fear, that might accompany these tasks for the first time is part of the process toward your child feeling proud of that accomplishment. Sometimes having you standing on the sidelines is enough.

Increase your Own Self-Esteem. As a parent, you are one of the most important role models in your child’s life. By modeling a healthy attitude and positive self-esteem, your child sees this daily and can pattern his own behaviors and attitudes after yours. Parents can serve as mirrors for their children in how to respond and behave in situations. Working on increasing your own self-esteem will help ensure your child has the best possible role model for health.

Being a parent can be hard, overwhelming, and confusing. If your child is struggling with self-esteem, try shifting yourself from a parenting place of doing things “right” to having fun and enjoying time with your child. The changes in your child with this shift might surprise you! If you feel that additional support would be helpful, a family therapist in your area can help provide on-going assessment and support towards a happier and healthier child and family.

Amanda Regalia, M.A. is a marriage and family counselor and clinician for The Marriage and Family Clinic in Denver, CO. Amanda specializes in working with families and children ages 5 and up. She is passionate about helping people to create practical solutions that support them in achieving their goals and improving their relationships and life

Breaking Up is Hard To Do: These Tips Will Make It Easier

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It happens to the best of people. You're in a good relationship sailing along smoothly and then for whatever reason you decide that the inevitable has to happen: you have to breakup with your Significant Other (SO). Whether it's because your relationship started becoming too rocky, or you realized you two were just going in different directions, you've decided that you can't continue on and you need to breakup. 

But everyone knows that breaking up is hard to do. First of all, you have to plan the right time and place to do it (if there is one). Then you have to have to muster up the courage to actually do it. And then you have to answer all the "But Why?"'s and the "Why now?"'s, etc. once you bring it up. And then there's the weeks and months ahead of having to tell everyone you broke up and answer their "Why?"'s. Not to mention the awkwardness of finding a new place to live, deciding who goes where, etc. 

Whew! That's a lot! No wonder breaking up is so hard to do. Despite all the questions and the inevitable heartache that comes with breaking up there are things you can do to make your breakup go smoother. Checkout these tips below about how:

Tips to Make Your Breakup go Smoother


1) Avoid Cliche's: It's not you, it's me. I just need some space. We're going in different directions. If you haven't heard these before, you've probably seen them in movies. These cliche's do no good in the breakup because it leaves your partner wondering if they're the sincere reason for the breakup or if it's just an excuse you used. They may hang on to the idea that they're just an excuse which could give them the impression that the door is open to get back together. And this leaves the door open to future contact - which makes breaking up even harder. 

Use your own words and tell your SO the cold, hard truth. You don't have to be mean about it but be honest nevertheless. If they know the real reason, this helps them know how to be better for a future relationship. This will also help you as you grieve the breakup in the coming months because you'll know you left nothing hidden. Not only will this help you grieve but will give you a clearer conscience and help you sleep better at night, too. 

2) Don't Tell Your Friends First. It's natural to talk to your friends about important decisions you want to make. But in this case, don't do it. It makes the breakup harder and creates potential for more difficulties down the road. 

Telling your SO first is the respectful and courteous thing to do. It will only hurt them more if they find out that they're the last one to know that you're going to breakup with them. And it also saves you from the sticky of situation of telling everyone you're going to breakup with them and then you decide not to. 

3) Lean on Friends/Family...A Lot. But Don't Slander. After you've broken up, feel free to talk to friends and family about it. Talk to them about how you're feeling, what you miss most, how it's especially hard when a special occasion is coming up, etc. But avoid slandering your ex. 

Slandering your ex makes your friends and family want to commiserate by slandering them, too. Which makes usually makes you want to defend them. After all, there were good things about them (otherwise you wouldn't have started dating them). And as you think about the good things about them, you'll only feel worse for breaking up with them. So when you talk to your friends and family, try not to slander your ex. Keep the focus on you and what you're feeling. Then do things with your friends to help you forget about your ex. 

4) Breakup and Be Done. Lots of couples breakup and then continue to see each other once in a while. They may go out to dinner with each other or even sleep with each other again. This is only kicking the can down the road and keeping you (and them) from moving on. 

Instead, breakup and make a plan where you will have as little contact as possible. For example, you can stay with your friend for a while until you or your SO moves out. You can change plans you've made to go on that vacation with his friends, etc. Seeing each other often after the breakup is never a good idea so it's important to breakup and be done.  

Breaking Up Is Always Hard


When you breakup, you're losing someone you care(d) about. Even if you don't care so much for them now, you did once. And you can't help but think about that good person you once loved. Because of this, breaking up is like losing someone you care about. And that will always be hard no matter what you do. But following these tips will help make it easier, help you mourn your old relationship and help you move on to happier days...and move on sooner. 

Various Types of Divorce: Which One Is For You?

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For many people a divorce is a painful procedure that happens once they have explored every possible avenue of saving the marriage. Once the process starts, there is no going back for majority of people. The result is an annulment of marriage after either a legal battle or amicable separation.

Most people only know of these two types of divorces. This lack of knowledge often results in failure to explore more suitable options that would help the couple reconcile their differences and go along their separate ways without any undue stress.

There are four distinct types of divorce proceedings recognized by law. This is why it is often best to consult an experienced family law expert. Every couple has their own dynamics of relationship. This dynamics is still there when the differences starts and matters worsen to the stage where the spouses start to contemplate separation and divorce. It is because of this dynamics that every couple requires distinct treatment of their divorce proceedings.

No Contest Divorce


No contest divorce is one of the best case scenarios where the couple decides to end the marriage after a mutually agreement. This agreement specifies the division of property, assets, child custody and division of financial liabilities. This is often the swiftest divorces with a court order arriving within two months of filing the papers.

Contrary to popular perceptions, it is often best to involve an attorney in these divorces. Although the decision to divorce is reached after mutual agreement, it might happen that one of the spouses might give up a right unknowingly.

No Fault Divorce


A no fault divorce does not assign blame to any of the spouses. Rather, it accepts the fact that a couple might not wish to continue marriage because of irreconcilable differences or incompatibility.
This is a radical departure form the previous divorce laws that dictates that there should be valid ‘grounds’ for the divorce. These grounds were often the wrongdoings of one spouse and commonly included infidelity, desertion and mental or physical abuse.
It is now recognized that couples might wish to dissolve the marriage simply because they could not continue to live together. In such cases, a simple no fault divorce is the best option. In many cases, people confuse this type with no contest divorce. However, the two types are governed by very different set of laws and precedents.

Simplified Divorce


A relatively unknown type of divorce is simplified divorce that often happens early in the marriage. In many cases, these divorces happen when the couple discovers early on that they could not possibly continue to live together in future. Simplified divorces, as the name suggests, are among the most simple of the divorce cases, with quick hearing and verdict.

One of the reasons of the quick resolution of these cases, is the fact that they are classified as no contest, no fault divorces. Since there are few assets and liabilities to partition and argue over, the resolution of the marriage is a straightforward matter. The decision is usually handed down in a few weeks of filing the papers.
Despite the name, couples looking for simplified divorce should consult an expert in state family law. This type of divorce is not allowed in several states. Where it is allowed, there are very strict requirements and pre-requisites for the procedure.

Limited Divorce


Limited divorce is not technically an annulment of the marriage. It is actually similar to legal separation in that the couple s granted sometime to sort their financial issues. The idea is to give the spouses enough time to take care of the issues that would otherwise complicate the divorce proceeding.
Filing for limited divorce means that the couple agrees on the principle of dissolution of marriage. However, the financial and domestic issues prevent them for going for a contested divorce. In such cases, the court might agree to grant some time to come up with a plan of division of assets, liabilities, matters of alimony and child custody.

During the duration of limited divorce, the couple must live separately and must abstain from sexual relations. Once the period is over, the couple, along with concerned attorney must appear before the judge and present the finalized agreement. Divorce proceedings start as per the usual procedure.
In all these types of divorces, it is important to understand that these four types of divorces require supervision and advice of a legal expert. It is very easy to file papers for an uncontested divorce only to discover that the judge has different ideas and the appeal is tossed out.


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The Hidden Power of Apology

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If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times: All couples fight. And I've also said this one a thousand fighting can actually be good in your marriage. But when I say this, I usually get all sorts of odd looks.

I think I get it. When people come to me for counseling, it's usually because they fight a lot. So when I tell them that it's okay to fight - and even that it can be healthy - they wonder why they still feel so rotten. And they also wonder why they're paying me.

But in all my articles that I've written about why fighting can be good in your marriage, I have always accompanied that statement with a caveat that goes something like this: Fighting is only good in your marriage if you make repairs afterwards. Without repairs, the fighting continues and so do all the bad feelings that fighting brings up.

Apology Is the Secret to a Happy Relationship


There is strong research that shows that apology makes the difference between a happy marriage and an unhappy one. Famous marriage guru John Gottman found in his 'Love Lab' study that couples who reported being unhappy actually didn't fight any more than couples who reported being happy. The difference was that couples who reported being happy had ways that they repaired the relationship after their fight. And the fact that they repaired after the fight is what made them happier.

A great example of the power of repair is the old sitcom Cheers!. Remember how Sam and Diane would always fight so much? It was funny to watch but you couldn't help but wonder why they stayed together. Especially when they'd end their fighting by saying something like "I hate you!" and "I hate you more!" But if you remember the clip, it didn't end with that. They actually ended by making out. That was their repair. If they didn't make that repair, they probably would have continued on fighting and continued in their bad relationship.

Apology is Unique for Every Couple 


Some people would look at Sam and Diane's relationship and say it was dysfunctional. After all, they didn't get married in the end like everyone wanted - but they still loved each other. And their relationship worked for them. Similarly, how you repair your relationship is up to you. It can be through an apologetic letter or simply saying "I'm sorry". It can be through gestures instead of words (like bringing home flowers, etc.). It can also be through passionately making out (like Sam and Diane). How you and your partner choose to make up after a fight is up to you. But what's most important is that you do make up and don't let bad feelings fester.

Don't Expect Your Partner To Repair the Same Way You Do


One of the biggest problems I see on my couch is that spouses expect their partner to repair the same way that they do. But if you won't accept an apology/repair unless it comes on your terms, you're doing more damage in your relationship. You're doing more damage because you're essentially giving your partner a demanding ultimatum. You're demanding that they apologize exactly the way you want them to or else you'll stay mad. This effectively tells your partner that their unique personality is not welcome and you'll hold the relationship hostage until your partner bends to you. 

Instead, look for the unique way your partner tries to make a repair and appreciate it. Or at least thank them for trying. Try to see the way that they are trying to make amends and meet them half way. This will do wonders for them and it will also show that you are also making an effort on your part to make repairs (by accepting their gesture). 

Remember, all apologies are unique. They don't always come in the form of saying "sorry" or groveling. But it doesn't matter. What's important is that there are apologies and that each partner is willing to make repairs after a fight. Regardless of what the fight is about.

 
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