While it’s true that not every relationship is meant to be – you’ll kiss a lot of frogs before you find that one – it’s also not always easy to end things. You two share history, friends, maybe even a house and pets. Often people will stay in a dying relationship out of comfort or fear of hurting their partner. However, if you decided that you’re in the wrong relationship and you’re staying despite what your gut is telling you, it may be time to consider what’s right for you.
Are you being asked to compromise too much?
Ah, compromise. It’s that dirty little word we all throw around; it feels a lot like not getting exactly what you wanted for Christmas, but still getting something pretty great. Compromising in relationships is a must. However, when you’re not 100% willing to meet your partner’s needs because your boundary would be crossed, it’s time to decide if this is the right relationship for you. Now, I’m not talking about where to have dinner or what movie to see, I’m saying the big things: children, marriage, or opening your currently closed relationship. If you’re not comfortable with these things, and don't think you ever will be, it’s probably time to move on.
This is a simple question and while the answer should be simple, sometimes it’s not. If you love the relationship more, you probably love the companionship more than your partner. If you love your partner more than yourself, you’ve put that person on a pedestal and created an imbalance in your relationship. However, if you love yourself you will not only respect yourself, but also your partner. In this situation, it will be easier to separate your rational thoughts from the emotions that are clouding the situation. So, consider this, if it doesn’t feel right, why are you actually staying? It might just be that you’ve placed more value on your partner or the relationship than yourself.
Do you know your worth?
Are you playing games?
Now, I’m not saying that if you love, respect, and value yourself, it will make the pain of the breakup disappear, that is, if you decided to move forward with it. However, it will make it much easier to separate those intertwined thoughts and emotions and see your relationship for what it really is. When the fog lifts, if you don’t like what you see, it might just be time to move on.